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Increasing the Usefulness of Rising Tide

17/10/2016

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Feedback from the use of previous books in The Worry Bug series told us that skills will be more embedded if these exercises are used progressively, building on knowledge as it is learned. The classroom exercises have been designed to be done in the last 20-30 minutes of the day, although they build on each other and can be completed over 2-3 longer sessions. The classroom exercises include the key competencies of Managing Self, Thinking, Relating to others, Participating and Contributing, Using language, symbols and text and meet Relationships with other people and Healthy communities and environments objectives.
Rising Tide will also be available on our website with accompanying audio in English and Te Reo. Professional development material will be attached to a series of emails to those schools that have signed up, and also available as a package with the digital version our website in late November.
Reflective practice by teachers and staff groups should be encouraged to embed the ideas and to support teachers to manage children bringing their emotional struggles to teachers. The language introduced should be used across the school by teachers and children, with parents, using instances of difficulty that arise daily to practice the ideas presented.
Research from the Worry Bug Project (via Massey University) and the All Right? Parenting evaluation shows that most teachers and parents found these resources useful and effective. Results trend towards increases in prosocial behaviour (measured by the Strengths Difficulties Questionnaire SDQ), in both classrooms and at home. In Rising Tide, we have used a similar psychological framework, but increased the complexity to match the older age group. The classroom and family exercises have been peer reviewed by teachers, a psychiatrist, and a clinical psychologist.
This resource is more than a set of exercises, it can be used to encourage and develop a climate of compassion and expression of feelings, leading to an increase in pro-social behaviour and a positive classroom culture.
Rising Tide is based on Cognitive behavioural and Narrative principles, again addressing both the home and school context via the principle of home and school scaffolding
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'Rising Tide'-Resilience Resource for Teachers & Parents of yr5-8 Children, Coming Soon!

14/10/2016

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After the success of 'Maia and the Worry Bug' and 'Wishes and Worries' families and schools asked for something for older children.  'Rising Tide' was written and developed for Year 5-8 children.  With the generous support of New Zealand Red Cross all children and teachers in Year 5-8 classrooms in Canterbury will receive a free copy. For teachers and parents outside of Canterbury the 'Rising Tide' will be available for purchase via our site and bookshops in November.

'Rising Tide' will launch in late November. It will be available in English and Te Reo Maori, and have an web based version with an audio component, and support videos.  In the back of the book parents and teachers will find
 teaching plans and family exercises to increase resilience and emotional intelligence.

Teachers, by registering below you will receive updates, synopsis, sample lesson plans to prepare your planning for 2017 and an invitation to participate in Massey University's research. Start your year off well by exploring the themes of resilience for confident learners and a positive classroom culture.  The books will be available for purchase from late November.

Rising Tide will be delivered free to Canterbury school that have opted in to receive them for use in 2017.  We're beginning the process of connecting with schools now to allow syndicates and individuals to add the use of the book to their planning.

Are you a year 5-8 teacher at a Canterbury school?  Great news!  Thanks to generous support from New Zealand Red Cross all students and teachers in/of year 5-8* attending Canterbury school** can receive a free copy.  Sign up to our newsletter so we can contact you about numbers etc. Not in Canterbury?  We'd love to keep you in the loop too!

Have a burning question, or just want to connect?  Drop us a line [email protected]


* As at Feb 1 2017
**  Available to Canterbury Home Schoolers too
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Child Counselors in Primary Schools; Including the Family

11/10/2016

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Recently there has been some media coverage proposing the idea of putting counsellors into primary schools, to help offset problems that might occur prior to teenage-hood. We put an article on our Facebook page and were surprised at the amount of passionate responses we got - in the affirmative - to the question of whether there should be counsellors in primary schools. 
 
Here’s some more thinking on it;
Children who are primary school age have different developmental needs in therapy than teenagers - of course - we know this.  But actually, they are fundamentally different.  Children under the age of about 10 are not individuated - they don’t really function in their heads as fully autonomous individuals.  That’s why they need parents who can tell them what to do, how to behave etc.  Children under the age of about 7/8 are quite concrete thinkers, they aren’t really able to reason their way through things - give them something to be afraid of and they will just be afraid of it, they will find it difficult to reflect on their actions or logically think through why they are afraid and what they could do about it.  Children will get these skills at different rates, they are skills that grow as they develop and as they have different interactions - they don’t just switch on and off.  So counselling children alone is a whole different skill, and often not effective or appropriate.
 
Sending a child to a counsellor is not like sending an adult.  An adult will be able to answer the question (usually) “why am I here?” and they will be able to reflect on their own behaviour and others, and decide upon and practice new ways of behaving.  A child usually won’t be able to do that.  Some responses on our Facebook post suggested that parents wanted  counsellors to ‘teach’ children skills so that they can be resilient - counselling is not usually about teaching, it is about listening and facilitating.  If teaching worked in counselling, then surely every person who had been to a counsellor would be making good choices about their lives and practicing value based living all the time.  Just like nutrition education, someone telling me sugar is bad doesn’t stop me buying my children ice creams. 
 
If we send a child to a counsellor to ‘get them fixed’, like we would take them to a doctor, then we are laying responsibility for the ‘problem’ on the child’s shoulders.  Those are small and immature shoulders to be responsible for such things.  I would suggest that if we have counsellors in primary schools, they should be seeing the family around the child as much as the child in an effort to understand the context that the problems live within.  We all know that when a child has a tantrum, it is not simply the tantrum that we should pay attention to, it is the whole context before and after. Do Mum and Dad have the same kinds of responses when they are upset?  How does the child communicate her needs?  What is it in the child or family life that is worthy of such overwhelming feeling?  When someone has that kind of feeling, how is it dealt with?  Is the tantrum attended to or the actual issue behind it?  And on and on.  We must, must, must, not lay responsibility for ‘fixing’ our ways of being in our family, on our children.  That will mean a lot more therapy when they are adults!!
 
So if we want counsellors to be available for our primary-aged children, I think we need to be willing to attend with them.  There’s evidence based research that shows that counselling for children is more effective when it involves the family.  There is good reason for this - children need to have support to implement new ideas, to think new things, and if their family knows what is going on in counselling, this can support any change that they are trying to make. Also, as I have alluded to, problems don’t usually occur in this age group without a multi-relational context.  If parents attend too, some of these relationships can be explored and parents can make changes themselves that support the child too.  This work isn’t easy though, it will be awkward and embarrassing and probably challenging.  That’s what change is like.
 
I have been talking here about children who have a caring family around them.  Of course there are many children who do not have caring adults; children who have been neglected, abused or abandoned.  It is especially these children who need long term therapeutic relationships with trustworthy adults to help them develop a sense of worth and belonging. School counsellors in primary schools would be another potential source of this for them.  School counsellors would also be another adult looking out for children who are in this kind of situation and who need immediate help.      
 
In conclusion, if we are thinking about counsellors in primary schools, we must consider including the family unit, and looking at the way in which counsellors might work in a different way from those in Secondary education settings.

Written by Julie Burgess-Manning. Get in touch [email protected]​

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NZ Psychological Society Annual Conference 2016

2/10/2016

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The Worry Bug Project for Christchurch Children: 
The child at the Centre of Recovery.

This September saw Sarina and I presenting at the annual conference of the NZ Psychological Society.  We were part of the Professional Practice and Applied Research cluster symposium examining the professional issues that we have grappled with over the time of managing the Worry Bug Project.
 
We were focusing in on the idea of bringing our personal worlds into professional practice.  As a psychologist, this has been a challenge over the years - how do I separate these two worlds, and should they even be separated?  Many psychologists have been taught to clearly separate these two worlds, but my time living and working in Thames, Coromandel, put an end to that possibility.  In such a small community turning down a family as a client because I might know them through my child or because they run the only bookshop, means that family might not be able to access specific services.  I became used to interacting with client families whilst picking up my child from school, buying groceries or when going to the library.  That meant that clients also saw my personal life happening round me - from me being frustrated with my children, to what I chose to read or have for dinner.  
 
When Sarina and I began the Worry bug Project, we intentionally merged these two worlds.  The personal experience that Sarina had had with being in the centre of the big quakes, and my experience of coming to a broken city with an intent to help professionally, we thought might work quite well together.  Also, we were at the mercy of having many children to manage whilst we worked, and not much childcare.  That meant that we often took our children to meetings, with funders, with PR people, with distributors, book designers and accountants.  Often we got our boobs out at these meetings, to breastfeed irritable babies who would rather have been at home.  Breastfeeding in front of people does tend to remove barriers to building relationships (though sometimes it has the opposite affect!) and we have made many friends over the course of the project because of this.  We often reflect on the many people that we have worked with and how almost every single one of them has recounted a story to us of a child or friend or family member who is troubled with anxiety issues.  Many of them have discounted their bills for this connection, and we are grateful for that.
 
The other issue we were discussing at conference is that of collaboration between disciplines.  So often collaborations between teachers and psychologists are fraught with problems because we are wed to our own knowledges.  Sarina and I thought a lot about what had helped us to work together as professionals from different disciplines and we think it comes down to two things - being authentic in our relationship with each other (bringing in the personal), and being able to listen past what we individually think about something.  Just as when my children try to tell me about something they have just learned; if I say something like “yes, yes, I know all about that, no, you’ve got that wrong, it’s like this” then I shut down the possibility of learning something for myself about their perspective (as well as irritating them immensely).  So, when I work with another discipline I have to put aside my own knowledge and try to hear their knowledge, and then we have to merge it somehow for the benefit of the child.  By looking at the child’s needs, instead of our own knowledge or ego, I think that we can be clearly focused on what they need, rather than what we need in terms of recognition as a professional, or a parent. Hence, our title - the child at the centre of recovery.
 

Anyway, we were a bit nervous presenting - I was aiming at a Ted-style presentation, and trying to incorporate some humour, but our efforts at perfection were threatened by exactly the things we were talking about - the personal impacting on the professional.  The week we left for conference Sarina had a tummy bug, and I had a small child with threatening pneumonia.  Both of us thought the other wouldn’t make it and were preparing for presenting alone. As it turned out, we did make it, even if Sarina got locked in the toilet and I got a hair in my muffin!  The day was topped off by Jetstar delaying our flights so we could explore wellington airport a bit more, and a bit more.

Overall we were pleased to have been included in the presentation line up for the conference and would love to repeat it next year especially as it will happen in our stamping ground of Christchurch.

Written by Julie Burgess-Manning. Get in touch [email protected]
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October 01st, 2016

1/10/2016

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Storylines NZ were the lucky hosts of this year's IBBY congress in Auckland, New Zealand.  Book lovers and experts attended from all over the world.  The Worry Bug Project has been researched during 2015 and 2016 by Dr Benita Stiles-Smith of Massey University and she presented a poster of the findings of her work.  

Our book design company, Smartwork Creative, was also represented by it's Director Kim Dovey.  You can read Kim's transcript about the future of book design here.

We were heartened by the feedback from Dr Stiles-Smith regarding the positive feedback from delegates in response to our books and project and look forward to discussing them further with the many agencies and companies that requested copies of the books and shared their own narratives with Dr Stiles-Smith. 
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    We all worry and feel anxiety at times in our lives.  Anxiety can impact on children and their families in many ways. The Worry Bug Project seeks to support parents and teachers to recognise and address mild to moderate anxiety.
    ​Sarina Dickson is a parent, author and educator, Julie Burgess-Manning is a parent, author and registered psychologist.

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